Counselling provides a confidential, safe, reliable and regular space where together with a professional you can explore the issues concerning you.
Counselling usually begins as a place where you can be heard and understood and where you have time to tell your story.
Depending on why you have sought counselling, the focus of what we go on to do might be more supportive, exploratory, symptom-oriented, insight-oriented, educational, behavioural, relational, a combination of these or something completely unique for you.
Whatever the specific reason or reasons, counselling generally involves exploring how effective you are in your life with a view to facilitate increasing your effectiveness in living (increasing your agency and autonomy, reducing unhelpful symptomology and improving your emotional satisfaction).
Our history influences how we experience life and how we solve (or don’t solve) problems, and so we may look at your current relationships and the possible influences of past relationships including experiences from childhood.
Sometimes therapy can be challenging because we will explore less attractive aspects of your history and beliefs, and I will challenge you (if you are okay with that). At the same time I will support and encourage you. I will always treat you with respect and integrity.
Depending on the issue or issues you have brought, I may provide you with some (psycho)education about the causes or maintenance of these issues to help you understand them better, and I may give you some tasks to do between sessions, to help you think through or observe or experiment during the week.
What is important to me is that we agree on what you would like to achieve from counselling and then work towards that goal or goals.
Although there are no guarantees, the aim is to help you achieve a better understanding of the nature of your problems, what keeps them going, and how to deal with them in a constructive way, leading to help you live a more satisfying and fulfilling life and relationships.
The Initial Meeting
At the initial meeting we will discuss what you are struggling with and what you want to achieve through counselling to confirm that counselling is right for you.
It will also be an opportunity for you to ask any questions.
Although professional, it will be relaxed and open: it is important that i undestand your issues and can work with them and important for you to assess if counselling with me is right for you.
If we agree to proceed, we will agree arrangements such as costs and a date and time to meet next.
At this initial session we can agree a number of sessions or keep the number open and regularly monitor and review progress towards your goals.
Next Steps and Making an Appointment
You can make an appointment by telephone, e-mail or using the contact form. Once we agree to meet, there is no obligation beyond this initial session.